The most useful and home hitting advice I’ve ever received since I’ve had Arjun. It’s probably applicable to a lot of things in life. I often find myself worrying about the past or attempting to plan for the future and I often forget to live in the present.
… This very moment…
Sometimes I wish I could just stop, sit, close my eyes, breathe and become aware of my surroundings instead of being so scatter brained with the millions of things I have going on!
Nothing lasts forever …
Not the bad times nor the good times so cherish every single moment. The good, the bad and the ugly – for one day they’ll become distant memories.
I don’t mean it in a negative way, I mean it in a positive way. Enjoy each and every phase of your baby’s life – life’s simple pleasures.
1) Rock a bye baby: He won’t want to be rocked to sleep forever so embrace it – I had so much advice around rocking and not doing it. But why not? It makes my heart melt that my baby boy took so much comfort in my arms wrapped around him, the sound of my heartbeat against his dinky little ears beating to the rhythm of my gentle rocks. He doesn’t want that anymore. He doesn’t want to be cradled because nothing lasts forever. Now he puts himself to sleep at nap times 🙁
2) Sweet Dreamin’ with Mama & Papa: He may not always want to sleep in your bed. I love having Arjun snuggled up close in the comfort of being with mummy and daddy. Co sleeping won’t last forever either. Our issue with co sleeping is that none of us actually get much sleep! Do what works for you and remember that nothing lasts forever – we already cramp Arjun’s style on the days he does end up in our bed!
3) Let a Baby be a Baby. I used to have terrible OCD where the slightest bit of “dirt” would gross me out. I’m so happy and proud of myself for overcoming parts of that since having Arjun. Yes he makes a mess when he eats, yes my cream coloured carpet has now turned a shade of beige, yes it means I have to clean a little more but guess what?
Nothing lasts forever.
I’m lucky that Arjun likes to eat, so what if he makes a mess? He’s a baby. Soon it’ll pass. Soon he’ll be eating with a knife and fork and clearing up after himself and I’ll miss his mucky face and clearing up after him.
4) Teef: Yes the sleepless nights are tough with teething, yes you may feel like you’re at your wits end, yes the sound of your baby’s cry may make you want to break down out of sheer helplessness or just because you’re fed up and frustrated. That’s ok. You’re not alone.
But remember nothing lasts forever.
5) Peekaboo’ing: Sometimes Arjun wants to play at the most inconvenient times but I remember that nothing lasts forever. We laugh hard and play for as long as he wants. Soon he’ll be too grown up for it and it won’t humour him as much. Soon he’ll be a big boy.
6) Climbing Mountains: The stairs – this used to drive me absolutely mad till I stopped and reminded myself …
Nothing lasts forever.
To Arjun the stairs are like a giant mountain, it’s fun and exciting. I want him to grow up enjoying outdoorsy things (although I’m talking about the stairs inside!). So now, I help him climb. It’s a game and we enjoy it together. I love the sound of him squeal with excitement as he reaches the top. Instead of stopping him, I now show him and support him because even this won’t last forever.
7) Tele Addict …: Allowing your baby to watch TV is very much an issue of contention. The truth is I did let Arjun watch TV from a younger age than I probably should have (around 3 months) but it helped calm him and it gave me a little time out especially during my recovery. Thankfully the likes of Baby TV are actually educational (not that he understood anything back then!). I used to worry about being a bad mummy allowing him to watch TV. Guess what? He barely watches TV anymore. I miss the days where he’d be entertained for half hour while I’d do what I needed to (selfish I know). I wish I’d not spent so much time wallowing in guilt – I wish I’d remembered that nothing lasts forever.
8) Prison Kissies: Arjun loves playing a game where he sticks his face through the baby gate and wants me to come and give him a kiss from the other side (usually while I’m cooking or cleaning in the kitchen!). He then moves along the gate and wants me to come follow. This can go on for ages. Sometimes I’m in the middle of cooking something on the stove, or my hands are covered in food, or I’m just too tired but I stop because nothing lasts forever. My baby boy may not always want to so willingly kiss me as he gets older. These moments are my most precious. Stop whatever you’re doing when your baby wants to play, it may be the last time they want to play it before they move on to a new game.
9) Sleep Cycling: Because that’s exactly what it is. Your baby may sleep for weeks through the night but guess what? Nothing lasts forever. That pattern may be disrupted by teething, by sleep regression, by growing pains, by a nightmare. When you’re having a tough night, remember nothing lasts forever. Soon you’ll be back to a phase of good nights. But make the most of that too – as nothing lasts forever.
10) Drama Central: Arjun’s tantrums can be pretty dramatic (I wonder where he gets that from!). It can be frustrating and draining at times, but it can also be quite cute (bad mum I know!). But remember nothing lasts forever. Soon he’ll be able to communicate through words and he won’t react in the same way so make the most of their animated antics.
Cherish every moment …
Hug them a little tighter
Kiss them a little longer…
Because nothing lasts forever