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Our Chicken Pox Diary …

Hello all,

It’s been an eventful last few weeks and Arjun getting chicken pox added to it! At 14 months old, I was pretty grateful when I realised what it was – I thought it would be a painful few days but I was glad to have them out the way while he’s little and won’t remember when older. 

Here’s our chicken pox diary. 

Day 1: Friday



As I was changing Arjun’s nappy, I noticed two “sores”. Something inside, call it a mothers instinct, told me to have a spot check around his body. He’s had a sore or two before at nursery but I’ve never felt the need to check the rest of his body. This time felt different. He seemed well in himself. I spotted two little pimples on his arms next to each other. I decided it was probably nothing and we both got ready and set off to start our day. 

We had a fun filled day at my parents house and Arjun was in good spirits. 

I popped out to see my Biji with my sister Goov and Preetam and left Arjun at my parents with my parents and Harv sleeping. 

When I got back, Before I even picked him up, I knew something was wrong. He didn’t look himself and wasn’t excited by the sight of me or Preetam. I’ve never seen that before. When I felt his body, I panicked. He was really hot. He’d just woken up as we’d entered. I checked his temperature and it was 39.9. He’s never had a temperature that high before. I panicked a little. He was really quiet and not really responding to our usual antics. 

I gave him some Calpol, waited for it to kick in and once I was satisfied that his temperature was dropping, we took him home. 


Day 2: Saturday 



Arjun woke up pretty grizzly on Saturday. Again he was really quiet and had a temperature but not as bad as the night before. He felt wet and clammy but he generally is a sweaty baby during the night. 

We decided a change of scenery may do him some good so decided to spend the day at Preetam’s parents house as planned where we were also joined by Preetam’s sister and husband. I welcomed the extra company to keep Arjun occupied and hopefully lift his spirits.  

 
He spent most of the day lying down or sitting quietly. He wasn’t himself at all and was really clingy. Usually he’s running around opening every cupboard in sight or attacking the fridge magnets! He wasn’t interested by his toys or the TV remotes. 
  

It broke my heart to see him like this. He didn’t have much of an appetite at all. I’d forgotten about the idea of chicken pox by now as I’d assumed that he’d have had more by this time if it was that. 

We decided to take him for a short walk and ended up at the park which was pretty empty. He usually loves the swings and slides but he didn’t want to be put down at all. He was super clingy and very tearful. So we decided to take him back. 

  


Day 3: Sunday 



By Sunday Arjun was in much better spirits and his temperature seemed to be a lot better. I noticed a few more pimple like spots on his arms but nothing major and not in the usual places chicken pox appear (tummy and face). 
His Goov Masi came to visit and they did finger painting together which he found really fun. He laughed and giggled – my boy was back! 

   
    
 

We popped to Preetam’s parents again that evening after a drive to Starbucks. Arjun was in much better spirits and was being his cheeky self. He even managed to eat a little – pizza! I’d have been really worried had he refused his favourite food. 

I wasn’t sure if it was chicken pox or a viral infection that had passed but either way I thought it was better to be safe than sorry so decided I’d keep him at home the following day. 

We stocked up on Calamine lotion just in case. 

Day 4: Monday 



Arjun woke up in good spirits and his temperature seemed to be completely fine. He managed to have a little breakfast. He played happily while I called his nursery. As soon as I mentioned that Arjun was unwell, they asked if he had chicken pox. Boom! My initial motherly instinct was right! Two other babies had been sent home that morning as they had chicken pox and so it was highly likely that’s what Arjun had. 
  

I almost felt relieved knowing what it was. I was also really pleased that Arjun had got them so young. 

I messaged my blogging buddy BattleMum on advice on chicken pox as her baby boy had them recently too. She recommended PoxClin Mousse so I sent Preetam a message to bring some home. 

He seemed fine in himself so I continued working from home as he played. While I was on a work call, I noticed his arms had started to blister. I didn’t manage to get a clear picture but they quickly started to fill on his arms. He kept touching them – I wasn’t sure if it was because they were itchy or because he was just fascinated by them but it was pretty difficult to distract him! I managed to distract him for a while with play doh and a rolling pin … Till he decided to taste it! 

   
   

At his grandparents house that evening, while he was rummaging through the cupboards and finding empty yogurt containers to sit on (his new “thing”), I noticed his eye seemed a little sore and gunky. I suspected conjunctivitis. Great, just what we needed! 

  

Day 5: Tuesday 



I called the doctors to ask about Arjun’s eye. They thought it would be a good idea for us to come in given he was already unwell. I decided to walk to the doctors with Arjun but ended up carrying him for a lot of the way! We were quarantined at the doctors as Arjun was contagious. The doctor confirmed it was conjunctivitis and to wash with warm water. 

  

Arjun was hard work on Tuesday. He decided to bypass his morning nap (not entirely his fault given his doctors appointment coincided with nap time) and didn’t want to be apart from me. He was happy when I was close by or when he was in my arms. He actually managed to eat a bit more than he had done the last few days (that wasn’t hard as he was practically on a hunger strike), he really enjoyed the homemade vegetables pies I’d made him. 

  

After lunch, it took me a while to put him down for a nap but he slept well. I managed to get a lot of my work done during his nap and was glad to have company in the afternoon. Our friends Karan and Pavan came to spend the afternoon with us to give Arjun some extra company. 

When he woke up he was in a really good mood and was kept busy by Karan and the tabla and also had some time in the garden with Pavan playing on the slide and swing. 
   
 

I decided to make paneer that evening as a pick me up – I really needed comfort food! You can find the recipe here
  

I decided to go to work the following day as Arjun seemed better so Preetam took the day off to be at home with Arjun. 

Day 6: Wednesday  



I missed Arjun so much when at work. I don’t consider myself overly googoogaga when it comes to kids but seeing your child unwell is the worst feeling. I stress even if he has a sniffly nose! They enjoyed the day together and Arjun seemed back to his normal self bar the hunger strike. They say it’s normal for a child to lose their appetite during chicken pox as the insides can also be infected making it painful. 

When I got home, I was embraced by my little terror. It was the best feeling ever. We spent the evening singing nursery rhymes and blowing bubbles. 

  

Day 7: Thursday 

Karan and Pavan suggested we spent the day at theirs knowing I was pretty drained from having days on end at home with Arjun. I thought the change in environment would also do him some good. He loves it at their house. 

He had a great day playing at their house and we were later joined by his Goov Masi. He kept us entertained with his usual antics and by trying to lead the way with “row row row your boat” – he has the cutest scream at the end of the rhyme! 

   
    
 

By this day Arjun’s face had pretty much cleared up. There were still a few spots on his legs and arms. 

Day 8: Friday

During the night Arjun seemed to have developed a cough and times it felt like he was slightly struggling to breath. I struggled to fall asleep worrying about him and decided to turn to Dr Google instead – big mistake. It basically told me my baby could die in a few hours if he had a chicken pox on his lung. I panicked. I’m a hypochondriac at the worst of times when it comes to Arjun so that was the last thing I needed to read! 

I made a doctors appointment first thing just to be safe though. The doctor confirmed his chest didn’t sound too bad and that he should be ok but to keep an eye. 

  

We spent the rest of the day and night at Preetam’s parents where we were also joined by Preetam’s sister. Arjun was back to his normal self – a stark difference to how he was the week before there! He was up to his usual antics – he decided to show everyone how to ab roll – a little gym buff in the making, he spent hours taking his crayola pencils out of the box and putting them back in and he played with the fridge magnets – 90% which he’s already managed to break (the remaining 10% he hasn’t managed to get his hands on just yet), and he watched his Dadi Ji tutor her students. 

   
    
    
    
 


His Dadi Ji also made him home made play doh which he had fun playing with. You can find the recipe for the play doh here

  

I also baked him cinnamon and banana cookies while we were there and he absolutely loved them! You can find the recipe here
  
We had lots of fun during our sleepover and Arjun sure did keep his Dada Ji and Dadi Ji busy! 

   
    
    
   

In the end we didn’t use the Calamine lotion (but it will be coming in handy for holiday in case anyone gets heat rash!) or the PoxClin as Arjun didn’t suffer from any itchiness. He only had about 15 spots in general so I don’t know if this was just a mild dose and if so perhaps he may get it again but I’m hoping we’re done with it! I’ll be sure to take Arjun around any kids that have it to test out his immunity 🙂 

Have your babies had chicken pox? What are your thoughts on the vaccination?x 

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Our Day Off …

I decided to take Thursday off from my phone, social media and blogging. Just a break in general. I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed and exhausted as I shared in my last post. Coupled with a slight cold and a sleep fighting baby, it’s been so tiring. 

I stayed away from my phone and it felt so nice – I felt lighter, my head didn’t feel so strained and my fingers got a break from the constant typing. I used my camera to take pictures instead and only checked my phone in between locations. I will definitely be doing that more often! It’s amazing how wrapped up in a phone one can become – flicking between Twitter, Facebook, blogging Instagram, Shopstyle, Pinterest and the list goes on  (you catch my drift) – you can end up spending hours on end engrossed in your phone and cyber space as life passes you by. 

We spent my “day off” exploring what the beautiful Cotsworlds has to offer… It was just what I needed – open space, both mental and physically and a break from everything. 
We decided to visit Cotsworlds Wildlife Park which I’d highly recommend for a beautiful day with gorgeous views, open and airy surroundings and lots of animals! There was a mixture of farm animals as well as wild animals, a train ride and there was also a fun adventure park where Arjun enjoyed his first zip wire experience. 

The stunning Cotsworlds views …

   
   

The wildlife park …
     
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    

  
He’s obsessed with magnets … That’s what he chose as his gift from the wildlife park …
   

  

  

Following on from the wildlife park, we made a quick trip to The Burford Garden Company as we passed it. It was absolutely gorgeous with lots of super cute quirky decoration and buys and a super cute Childrens shop which specialises in wooden toys. We’ll definitely be visiting again and next time will be stopping for tea and scones when time isn’t restricted. We managed to grab a pair of Hunters each in time for the wet weather though :). 

   

  

  

  

  

  

We finishs the day off with a quick spot of shopping for Arjun at Bicester where we enjoyed a yummy Nutella crepe followed by tea and scones. A day of indulgence indeed! 

   

  

I had such a beautiful slow paced day and really enjoyed it. It’s just what I needed and I’ll be sure to do it more often – a way from my phone. 
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A Trip to Westfield with Arjun … Then vs Now

The other day we returned back to Westfield for the first time since I took Arjun alone back in February – what a whirlwind of emotions it brought back. Being there, though not alone with him this time, brought back so many memories. I’ve come a long way but my fears then have been replaced by new ones! 

I enjoyed being with him there this time a lot more as I watched him run around aimlessly – following the nearest person he could see and diverting at the speed of lightening when he saw another! 

I was able to enjoy it so much because Preetam was with me. Had he not been I would’ve been pretty stressed managing things alone especially with my extra long shopping list (mainly for Arjun’s bits and bobs … Honest!). 
Here are a few reflections on our trip compared to my last trip with Arjun and whether I’d be able to do it alone again: 
1) We went to the food court again but I knew it was ok to do so as there were two of us to manage Arjun. Not sure how that would’ve worked had it been me alone. How would I have held the tray of food back to our table, managed a little toddler who is faster than the speed of lightning and manage our bags and buggy?! Ok the buggy could house the bags but that wouldn’t have really helped! I’d still have the food to deal with and a mobile toddler. 

  

2) How on earth could I shop?! Even with reigns on, he’s trying to leg it! I was able to enjoy shopping as Preetam was with us and he managed Arjun. I’d still have the shopping bags issue had I been alone. How do you manage all the shopping bags as well as a toddler?! I can imagine I’d end up having a few ditzy moments! 

 

Then …
  
vs Now

 3) Reflecting on my last experience alone, nappy changing seemed like a huge deal. It wouldn’t be now. He goes less frequently and it wouldn’t be such a huge deal compared to dealing with other things. My energy is more likely to be used up on chasing him, a nappy change would probably be a welcomed break now! 

4) I’d definitely feel a little more confident in terms of not worrying about him having a crying episode there. He didn’t cry at all during this trip. He was really happy and excited seeing so many people, lots of new surroundings and being able to move himself. With his new found independence has come reduced tears which has instilled me with a little more confidence. 

5) We can enjoy the same food which means I wouldn’t have to worry about pre packing food – I LOVE this! Arjun had a mini square pie (spinach sweet potato and goats cheese) mash and beans while we enjoyed the adult version. I really love that other than a few snacks, I don’t really need to pack much in terms of meals when out as I can easily pick something up. 

     

 
   
   

I probably wouldn’t feel brave enough to go to Westfield alone with Arjun if I had a huge shopping list but I’d definitely feel comfortable going if I had a quick trip planned. One where I didn’t require a buggy or end up with a gazillion shopping bags! 

I may set myself the challenge when I feel brave enough to take on Westfield alone again. Even if it is just for a quick trip. It’ll be interesting to say the least! 

Do you have any tips for shopping with a toddler? x

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14 Month Update … A Month Full of Quirky Antics and Hitting a Big Milestone! 

A little late due to my Nana Ji’s passing, but better late than never! Here’s Arjun’s 14 month update. A month full of his quirky antics! 

  • He’s hit his biggest milestone yet … He’s now walking! … Running even! 

  

  • He has a new habit of grabbing any item of clothing and draping it around him or over his head. 

   

    
     

  • He has his first happy meal … Naughty mummy

  

  • He loves painting but has regular tantrums when told he can’t eat paint 

  

  • He loves to feed others and likes sharing his food in general 

  

  • He likes to play with building blocks 
  • He likes to eat with a fork but still hasn’t quite mastered using a spoon!

  • He gives cuddles on demand 
  • He loves playing prison kissies with me through the baby gate 

  

  • He got his first pair of proper shoes

  

  • We’ve had a rough week of teething as his molars are making an appearance 
  • He likes to comb his own hair

  

  • Had his first nursery summer fete
  • He says “Dada”, “Mama”, “Ba Ba” (bye bye)
  • We had our first proper experience of life with a walking toddler at the Gurdwara

  

  • He’s very sensitive to people leaving our house if they’ve come to visit – it’s usually pretty dramatic 
  • He loves pushing things around and rearranging furniture
  • https://youtu.be/3gQt0LVQWjA

  • He had his first summer fete

   
    
   

  • He likes to blow raspberries on my tummy! 
  • He hates the word “no” and has a tantrum any time it’s used! 
  • His favourite food is definitely raisins 
  • He likes popcorn

  

  • He weighs 12kg

 

x

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“Nothing Lasts Forever” … Cherish Every Moment

The most useful and home hitting advice I’ve ever received since I’ve had Arjun. It’s probably applicable to a lot of things in life. I often find myself worrying about the past or attempting to plan for the future and I often forget to live in the present.

… This very moment…

Now.

Sometimes I wish I could just stop, sit, close my eyes, breathe and become aware of my surroundings instead of being so scatter brained with the millions of things I have going on!

Nothing lasts forever …

Not the bad times nor the good times so cherish every single moment. The good, the bad and the ugly – for one day they’ll become distant memories.
I don’t mean it in a negative way, I mean it in a positive way. Enjoy each and every phase of your baby’s life – life’s simple pleasures.

1) Rock a bye baby: He won’t want to be rocked to sleep forever so embrace it – I had so much advice around rocking and not doing it. But why not? It makes my heart melt that my baby boy took so much comfort in my arms wrapped around him, the sound of my heartbeat against his dinky little ears beating to the rhythm of my gentle rocks. He doesn’t want that anymore. He doesn’t want to be cradled because nothing lasts forever. Now he puts himself to sleep at nap times 🙁

2) Sweet Dreamin’ with Mama & Papa: He may not always want to sleep in your bed. I love having Arjun snuggled up close in the comfort of being with mummy and daddy. Co sleeping won’t last forever either. Our issue with co sleeping is that none of us actually get much sleep! Do what works for you and remember that nothing lasts forever – we already cramp Arjun’s style on the days he does end up in our bed!

3) Let a Baby be a Baby. I used to have terrible OCD where the slightest bit of “dirt” would gross me out. I’m so happy and proud of myself for overcoming parts of that since having Arjun. Yes he makes a mess when he eats, yes my cream coloured carpet has now turned a shade of beige, yes it means I have to clean a little more but guess what?
Nothing lasts forever.

I’m lucky that Arjun likes to eat, so what if he makes a mess? He’s a baby. Soon it’ll pass. Soon he’ll be eating with a knife and fork and clearing up after himself and I’ll miss his mucky face and clearing up after him.

4) Teef: Yes the sleepless nights are tough with teething, yes you may feel like you’re at your wits end, yes the sound of your baby’s cry may make you want to break down out of sheer helplessness or just because you’re fed up and frustrated. That’s ok. You’re not alone.
But remember nothing lasts forever.

Like many things baby related, teething comes in waves. It’ll soon pass.

5) Peekaboo’ing: Sometimes Arjun wants to play at the most inconvenient times but I remember that nothing lasts forever. We laugh hard and play for as long as he wants. Soon he’ll be too grown up for it and it won’t humour him as much. Soon he’ll be a big boy.

6) Climbing Mountains: The stairs – this used to drive me absolutely mad till I stopped and reminded myself …

Nothing lasts forever.

To Arjun the stairs are like a giant mountain, it’s fun and exciting. I want him to grow up enjoying outdoorsy things (although I’m talking about the stairs inside!). So now, I help him climb. It’s a game and we enjoy it together. I love the sound of him squeal with excitement as he reaches the top. Instead of stopping him, I now show him and support him because even this won’t last forever.

7) Tele Addict …: Allowing your baby to watch TV is very much an issue of contention. The truth is I did let Arjun watch TV from a younger age than I probably should have (around 3 months) but it helped calm him and it gave me a little time out especially during my recovery. Thankfully the likes of Baby TV are actually educational (not that he understood anything back then!). I used to worry about being a bad mummy allowing him to watch TV. Guess what? He barely watches TV anymore. I miss the days where he’d be entertained for half hour while I’d do what I needed to (selfish I know). I wish I’d not spent so much time wallowing in guilt – I wish I’d remembered that nothing lasts forever.

8) Prison Kissies: Arjun loves playing a game where he sticks his face through the baby gate and wants me to come and give him a kiss from the other side (usually while I’m cooking or cleaning in the kitchen!). He then moves along the gate and wants me to come follow. This can go on for ages. Sometimes I’m in the middle of cooking something on the stove, or my hands are covered in food, or I’m just too tired but I stop because nothing lasts forever. My baby boy may not always want to so willingly kiss me as he gets older. These moments are my most precious. Stop whatever you’re doing when your baby wants to play, it may be the last time they want to play it before they move on to a new game.

9) Sleep Cycling: Because that’s exactly what it is. Your baby may sleep for weeks through the night but guess what? Nothing lasts forever. That pattern may be disrupted by teething, by sleep regression, by growing pains, by a nightmare. When you’re having a tough night, remember nothing lasts forever. Soon you’ll be back to a phase of good nights. But make the most of that too – as nothing lasts forever.

 10) Drama Central: Arjun’s tantrums can be pretty dramatic (I wonder where he gets that from!). It can be frustrating and draining at times, but it can also be quite cute (bad mum I know!). But remember nothing lasts forever. Soon he’ll be able to communicate through words and he won’t react in the same way so make the most of their animated antics.

Cherish every moment …

Hug them a little tighter

Kiss them a little longer…

Because nothing lasts forever
x

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I’m THAT mum at the Gurdwara …

… That has the “annoying” toddler that:

  1. Comes and strokes your chunni (scarf used to cover your head) while you’re trying to listen to the kirtan because I want to see if it’s the same texture as my mums
  2. Decides that poking the shiny mirrors on your suit would be fun – it’s sensory overload for me
  3. Sits in the middle of the matha tekh (where you bow down to the Guru Granth Sahib) queue aisle as it has the best view – I did sit there quietly for a little while 🙂
  4. Runs off to every child in sight – I like babies so much
  5. Your babies want to play with because I always share my toys
  6. Flashes a smile at you when your day may not have gone so great because I’m smiley and friendly
  7. Dances Moves to the beat of the kirtan (religious hymns)
  8. Squeals with excitement and sings along to the kirtan
  9. Plays tabla (indian drums) on my snack box
  10. Likes to play peekaboo with my mummy and Masi  (aunti)

So last night I decided to go to the Gurdwara (Sikh temple) to listen to kirtan. It’s been a while and I’ve been craving food for my soul! Bhai Niranjan Singh Ji was doing kirtan so I thought it would be a perfect opportunity to satisfy that craving.

My sister Goov, Arjun and I went together. I was armed with a few toys and snacks to keep him entertained.

I was so so nervous about taking him now that he’s walking. I was always one of those women that used to get distracted easily by children running around. My problem really for not being focused enough! I also had sympathy for the parents of those kids. I had no idea how difficult it was! My outlook and approach has somewhat changed after last night.

I honestly felt so out of my zone. I was so grateful to have Goov with me – it’s not something I would’ve done alone! My confidence isn’t great as you’ve probably been enlightened to. I kept questioning the situation, my mothering skills and whether my child was being a total nuisance:

  • Is he disturbing the peace?
  • Is he being disrespectful?!
  • Should I go pick him up?!
  • Is he annoying that lady?
  • Is she only smiling back at him to be polite?
  • Am I doing the right thing?!
  • Should I just leave?
  • Why don’t I just know what to do?!
  • Is he playing nice with those kids?
  • Are they playing nice with him?!
  • When do I go pick him up?!
  • If I keep chasing after him, will he think it’s a game?!
  • What’s the limit?!

Not sure if there’s a general mummy status quo in the Gurdwara (please share with me if so!) but after a little while I figured that Arjun was actually really enjoying being there. He was enjoying:

  • The open space
  • Seeing so many other children
  • The different surroundings
  • The kirtan hence why he was trying to play tabla/sing along   


After about 15 minutes, I became a bit more relaxed. He wasn’t being disrespectful to Maharaj (Sri Guru Granth Sahib – our holy scriptures), he was just being a baby. He doesn’t know the difference between a place of worship and a playground. And when I looked around, all the other children were doing similar. I didn’t want to get angry at him and snap. It’d only upset him and that would’ve disturbed everyone’s peace and would’ve meant we’d have to leave.

I remembered something a friend once said to me – I figured, as long as he wasn’t disturbing anyone’s peace, annoying anyone or being disrespectful (in which case I’d firmly stop him!) I think I can handle Arjun seeing the Gurdwara as a fun and happy place. As his favourite play house – after all it’s his father’s house. I want him to feel comfortable and happy there. I want him to want to go there. He’s a baby, he’s entitled to be a baby in God’s house. I don’t want him to miss out on the upbringing I had – the Gurdwara, kirtan and paat has always been a huge part of me and has helped me through life. I want him to have that same comfort. To feel that he can turn to God – to associate God with positive things. Letting him be free meant he was happier than me trying to restrict him.

Yes in an ideal world I’d love for him to sit in one place for an hour but unfortunately he’s just not there yet! I managed to enjoy some of the kirtan and felt at peace with my child’s behaviour at the Gurdwara too. I’m definitely not alone. But don’t feel guilty – it’s their fathers house as much as it is anyone else’s. As Arjun grows and has more understanding, I’ll slowly teach him. He’s a super friendly baby and isn’t shy to spread the love.
I try and be as considerate as possible:

  • Sitting towards the back where before I’d sit towards the front
  • Coming armed with snacks
  • Having toys to keep him distracted for a little while
  • Remain calm to keep him calm

To those that don’t have children and so may not have all the tolerance and understanding in the world (like I was before Arjun!), I’m sorry if you find my child annoying but I promise I do my best to eliminate the disruption caused to your peace. Remember we need a little bit of food for my soul too and mummyhood is a full time job so I can’t and don’t want to always leave Arjun at home xx

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Arjun’s 13 Month Update … My Favourite Month So Far!

Hi guys!

I can’t believe it’s already been a month since Arjun’s first birthday! You can see details of how we celebrated at his jungle themed party here

Wasn’t sure whether to continue with my monthly updates now that Arjun has turned one but then I thought I’d do it for selfish reasons at least – as a journal/memoir as that was the whole purpose of my blog! So here goes…

This month has seen so many changes in him. He’s suddenly becoming a proper little person. It’s been one of my favourite months as I feel like we’re able to have a lot more fun as his huge personality is shining through now more than ever. I’m really looking forward to when he’s walking and talking now too. I think once he’s talking, it’ll be a lot easier to understand what his frustrations are or what he wants. 

This has by far been one of my favourite months with him. He’s become so independent but also his character is shining through brighter than ever! 
We spent the day as a family by going for brunch at Chiquitos, doing a little shopping then coming home and spending quality family time together. We played with mega blocks and got arty too! 

Here’s an update of Arjun’s 13th month in this world!:

  • He’s taken his first steps this month 

  • He doesn’t like the cushions on our sofas so we spend most of our day playing chase where he’s taking them down and I’m following putting them back up (that’s my OCD kicking in!)
  • He’s always pretending to be on the phone and has called his dadi Ji and his Goov Masi by accident (from the phone book!)

  • He likes to make himself busy by being “helpful” and rearranging everything! (video) 

https://youtu.be/9XJW5hT5Hug

  • He started nursery and is now more settled
  • He loves playing the tabla or any musical instrument for that matter 

  • Tries to put himself to sleep if tired by pulling down a cushion or a comforter and resting his head

  

  • He now needs a comforter at nursery be it a brick or a blanket 
  • He’s taught himself to climb down off the sofa and bed with no help 
  • Had his first edible sensory experience

https://youtu.be/xrJJ5EpD38E

  • He likes to blow raspberries on my tummy!
  • He still loves playing peekaboo 
  • Likes playing hide and seek

https://youtu.be/YCv9PtRXmA4

  • Sleeping through the night the last few nights (I bet I’ve jinxed that!) 
  • Loves bananas 
  • Loves playing with sand and water and mega blocks 

  

  • Loves being outdoors
  • Likes to play with other children

https://youtu.be/Uoj_zSTAEWI
Some of the new foods he’s tried this month include raisins (not sure why he’s never had these before!), parsley, dokra, chocolate eclair (he stole mine!) 
  

x

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Arjun’s First Experience of Edible Sensory Play!

So today Arjun’s Harv Masi decided to do an afternoon of edible messy sensory play. There are definitely endless perks of having a sister that’s a nursery nurse! He absolutely loved it especially as his big sister Shaan is also here. 

As you all know, Arjun’s quite the foodie so we thought it would be a fun way to incorporate sensory play with different textures, smells, colours and tastes given he was bound to stick whatever it was in to his mouth! 

The trays we went for included: 

  • Cooked pasta and cornflour with mixed food colouring
  • Mini marshmallows and jelly 
  • Water with food colouring 
  • Shaving foam and mixed food colouring – not edible but we watched over him to ensure he didn’t eat it! 

   
     
We gave him a whisk and steal spoon to use to play. He took an immediate liking to the whisk and spent most of his time mixing the trays. His favourite tray was the water tray and the marshmallow and jelly tray. He liked eating the pasta and the marshmallows and he liked splashing the water. He got shaving foam on his face which was super cute. 

   
                

 

He is happy to play independently but also enjoyed playing with Shaan. 

http://youtu.be/xrJJ5EpD38E

It was really nice to have an edible sensory experience at home – I hadn’t even thought about ever doing this. 

Next time we’ll be incorporating some of his toy figurines and creating fun scenes! 

 

What sensory play do your babies like? x

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Arjun’s Birthday Part 2: Birthday Blessings

Hello all, 

An update on Arjun’s birthday celebrations part 2 (technically part 1!). We decided to keep a kirtan for Arjun’s birthday a few days before his birthday as I wanted it done before his first day at nursery and also before his party – almost like a pre birthday blessing. I wanted to thank the almighty for absolutely everything – even the challenging times for making me stronger and also getting me through those times. 

We had a kirtan (religious hymn ceremony) the week before his party at Havelock Road Gurdwara. 
Since Arjun was born, it was my wish to have Bhai Niranjan Singh Ji do kirtan on his first birthday. I felt so so grateful to God for granting us with that wish. Bhai Sahib has been like a family member for over ten years and has ridden through some tough times with us – by some miracle, they happened to be driving past when my mum and I had our car accident in India and if it wasn’t for them, I may not have made it to the hospital in time. 
  

They do the most emotion evoking kirtan and they are definitely one of the most spiritual and blessed souls I know so we were so grateful that they ensured they were here for Arjun.  Kirtan is food for my soul. 

  

It all felt really surreal – I couldn’t believe I have a baby, let alone one that’s about to turn one. 

The kirtan was beautiful and the atmosphere was buzzing. It was really overwhelming to see Arjun showered with so much love by our friends and family that were there. 
Arjun enjoyed playing with everyone – he is generally happy when we are at the a Gurdwara. He spent most of the evening saying “satsriakal” (hello) to everyone by putting his hands together. 

You can hear a full recording of the kirtan here

An update on Arjun’s party to follow soon x   
                           

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Arjun’s First Birthday Part 1 & 1 Year Update!

Hello all, 

I can’t believe a year has flown by. It feels like only yesterday I was super excited to go in to labour and have my baby.. A year on and it still feels surreal. I still can’t believe I’m a mum. I have a little dependent now. It doesn’t feel real. 

     

He’s my heart and soul and has kept me going despite the lows on my rollercoaster of emotions with motherhood. He’s my biggest blessing. He’s taught me patience (sort of!), he’s taught me to be less selfish (I only share my food with him!) and he’s taught me that I can love like I never imagined.
 

I feel eternally blessed and grateful to God for everything. I survived a year of mummyhood – go me!! It feels like a huge milestone. I can’t believe I’ve taken care of Arjun for 21 months (9+12). I never thought I’d be able to do it. But to be fair, I couldn’t have done it without Preetam and without my sisters who have been such a strong pillar of support. 

It’s been quite frustrating as my memory feels like it’s totally been wiped in large chunks, but I’m so thankful for my blogging journey as it allows me to reflect back on the last six months of Arjuns life. I just wish I’d started it earlier. The last year has flashed by and it’s made me realise how quick time flies and how I really need to learn to live in the moment more. 

My confidence of knowing what Arjun wants has definitely grown. He’s still strongly daddy’s boy but mummy definitely knows best! I remember when people used to say to me “you’ll just know” or “mummy always knows” and I used to feel panicked during the early stages of motherhood as I didn’t know why he was crying. I felt like I was failing or like something was wrong but over time I’ve definitely gotten to know him inside out. I know when he’s tired, when he’s hungry, when he’s in pain or when he just wants a cuddle. I feel more confident now than I ever have though I still have a lot to work on! 

For his actual birthday, the night before I had decorated the living room with Mickey Mouse scene setters and balloons (thanks Goov!) as he loves Mickey at the moment! I was super excited for him! 

 
 

We bought him a Mercedes AMG remote control car (daddy’s idea!) which he can also drive himself when he’s older. 

When Arjun woke up, we took him downstairs and he was fascinated by the decor. He investigated his new ride while daddy prepared birthday breakfast crepes. 
   
  
 http://youtu.be/Ic2pwsp7X7o

After that, Arjun played some more with his car and we played peekaboo before he fell asleep pretty quickly for a nap. I also fell asleep with him! I think all that excitement had caught up with me too. I woke shortly before him so showered and got ready. 

When he woke, we all went to the gurdwara to thank the almighty for everything. Walking up to Maharaj (Sri Guru Granth Sahib – Sikh holy scriptures and our current guru), I had a flashback of the first time I came to the gurdwara after having had Arjun. It was a few days after he was born and I remember being in excruciating pain. I almost fainted while they did the ardas (prayer) then. And look at us now! I only get the odd pull but otherwise I feel pretty “normal”. Arjun was tiny back then. It’s hard to believe he’s grown so fast. I’m so proud of the loving little boy he is. 
 

Throwback – Arjun’s first ever trip to the Gurdwara
  
Throwback – Arjun’s first ever trip to the Gurdwara
 

Arjun enjoyed all the attention he got from the Giani Jis (priests) who all seemed to know it was his birthday and gave him lots of blessings. 

   
  
 
When we got home, we took Arjun in the garden to test out his new ride. It was so cute watching his excited face as his daddy rode him around the garden. I’m pretty sure he was convinced that he was driving the car himself haha! He looked so cute driving like a boss with one hand on the steering wheel and one arm leaning against the door. 
 
  

http://youtu.be/9_VO_CPs8nw

While playing in the garden, we received a surprise visit from Arjun’s cousin Shaan. He was ecstatic to see her and had fun playing in his car with her. He then opened his gifts from her which included a Mickey Mouse golf set. He found it absolutely hilarious watching her knock golf balls with her club. It was adorable. 
 
 

After that, Arjun had a quick nap during which time I carved a watermelon basket (in to a hippo head) for his party. I then prepared dinner for the evening (pizza, salad and garlic bread) where we were going to be joined by our immediate family to celebrate. 

 
 

Arjun had a lovely time opening all his gifts. He was absolutely spoilt rotten by his Dada Dadi, Nana Nani, Chacha Ji, Pua and Fufar Ji and Masis. He received his very first motorbike from chacha, a motorbike rocker from his Pua and Fufar and a whole new wardrobe and slide (to name a few!) from his Masis. He also got a mini tabla (Indian drums) from my parents which he is obsessed with! 
He’s so blessed to have such loving family surrounding him who all absolutely adore him. 
We cut his Mickey Mouse cake, had dinner (all his fave carby foods!) and he played till quite late. It was such a lovely evening with our closest. 

   
  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

 

   
         

Before bed, we managed to get Arjun’s footprint on canvas. I want to do that every year on his birthday so we can see how much he’s grown! 

  

The night ended with Preetam showing Arjun the card he’d made for him. If you think I’m a sucker for crafts, Preetam definitely outdid me lol. He waited till the evening as he’d made a cut out Mickey Mouse card which created a Mickey silhouette on our bare bedroom wall when light is shone through. Arjun was really fascinated watching Mickey shrink and expand! 

   

 
We had a perfect day celebrating. We didn’t do anything too fussy – we just wanted a chilled out family day. 

An update on Arjun’s 12th month in this world!: 

  • He can walk against furniture pretty fast and often one handed
  • He waves bye bye
  • He stands for 5/6 seconds unaided

  

  • He can climb down the stairs (back to front)
  • He puts his hands together to say satsriakal (hello in Punjabi) 
  • He understands words like “dudoo/milk” “paani/water” 
  • He’s started settling in sessions at nursery 

      

  • He loves his JCB ride along truck – he loves to place his ball pit balls in to the dumper and then spill them out 

  

  • He now walks if you hold his hand and is becoming more and more confident 

  • His favourite book is “That’s not my Tractor” 
  • He loves his tent and often goes in there to escape the crazy in our house

  

  • He loves playing with his sensory balls and any other ball for that matter! 
  • He used his paddling pool for first time 

  

http://youtu.be/UWrPOReAtqo

  • He plays peekaboo

  • He knows where his nose is 

    • He’s now off the bottle completely and uses a straw cup for water and a beaker for milk 

      

    • He knows how to high 5
    • He loves to play with sand and water 

        

    • We had our fourth holiday to Norfolk with our siblings and Arjun loved it

      

    • His new favourite nursery rhyme is “who’s that hiding underneath the hat” 
    • He loves playing his tabla (Indian drum) 
    • He loves playing with older children

      

    • He loves to watch Mickey Mouse and the Simpsons 
    • Had his first poo accident in the bath! 
    • He tries to put you to sleep

    • Had his first Father’s Day 
    • Some of the new foods he’s tried are raisins, Quorn sausages and tofu 
    • Enjoyed cake properly for the first time at his cake smash

      

      Summary of his 1st year: 

      • His first word was “Dada”
      • He has the most contagious laugh 

       http://youtu.be/P9Xa50z6jxs

      • He crawled at 8 months 

      • Has had two terms of swimming lessons 

      • First tooth at 7 months 
      • First holiday at 4.5 months 
      • He’s been on eight flights 

        

      • We began our weaning journey at 4.5 months 
      • He has 6 teeth 
      • He’s 82cms tall
      • He’s been on four holidays including Dubai twice and the Maldives and Norfolk in his first year of life 

            

        

        • He stood alone at 11 months 
        • Celebrated his first Christmas with his own Winter Wonderland 

                    

        • Shakes his head to say no 

        • Baby TV served me well between 3-8 months and then Arjun discovered Mickey who we haven’t been able to get rid of since! 
        • We celebrated Lohri for Arjun 
        • Absolutely crazy about his dad – still has separation anxiety

          

        • Celebrated his first Vaisakhi and went to his first Nagar Kirtan

          

        • He’s attended four weddings in his first year

              

        • He’s crazy about dogs and all animals 

            

        • His favourite foods are crepes, baked beans and cheese as well as anything bread based! 
        • Had his first rakhri

                

           
         

        We celebrated his birthday with all our family and friends with a jungle themed first birthday party which I can’t wait to share with you all!x 

        It’s been an emotional journey and I feel overwhelmed when I think about it all. But I am also looking forward to embracing toddlerhood and I’m excited for the next stage when Arjun starts to walk and talk. Tomorrow is the start of a new journey – I’m back at work and Arjun has his first full day at nursery. I’m feeling positive x 

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